Here’s that day again. Sixty-one (61) years ago today on June 11, 1960, I married my first love, Lynndle Blaylock. He was 21 and I was 17. We were married for 43 years before his sudden death on October 31, 2003. We were always a team and moved 17 times during those 43 years looking for employment and a better life. We raised three children who are now 57, 58 and 59 years old. Lynn had many health issues over the years including 2 types of cancer, a heart attack and a 5-way heart bypass surgery in 1996. The night he passed, he was undergoing a procedure (stents) on his heart and died of cardiac arrest. He was 65 years old when he passed and was the first man in his family to ever live long enough to collect Social Security. He loved music and enjoyed playing his guitar. He was a very optimist, kind and caring person. He was honest to a fault and could not understand people who were not. He told me many times, if something happens to me, I want you to get on with your life and fine someone else. Five years later in October of 2008, the Captain entered my life and we have now been married 11 years. I was so lucky to have two wonderful husbands in my life, when some women never have any. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of Lynn and I cherish the memories we had together.
THOUGHTS ON THIS LIFE LESSON
When I married the Captain he was 75 years old, with no life insurance coverage. If you are paying attention, you know that at age 75 or older you are going to pay a high premium on any life insurance you purchase, and usually the cost dictates the amount of insurance you can afford. We now have seven policies on him and one on me. The monthly cost for these policies is well over $1,200.00 dollars per month.
Many younger folks don’t think about the future and what can happen and how you need to be prepared. They are busy thinking they will live forever and have no time to worry about things like life insurance or burial plans. Life can change in a heartbeat.
What I am about to tell you is troubling at most. Whenever I am out in public, I try to be aware of all situations around me, since I would be considered an easy mark for someone who wanted to rob me or do me harm. I was grocery shopping at Ralph’s early this morning and when I walked back to my car, parked in handicap parking, I noticed a car one space down from me that was backed into the parking space but was not backed in very far at all. In the front seat was the male driver, a woman passenger and someone in the back seat. The ones I could see were black and Hispanic in their 20’s. I put the trunk up to my car and they looked at me, and I looked at them. I finished loading my groceries in the trunk, unlocked the car and quickly got in and locked the car doors, like I always do. I was safe in my car and immediately this young man and young woman came running out of the store as fast as they could. They were laughing and jumped into the car where the others had been waiting and the driver took off at a high rate of speed. Two store employees came out of the store and quickly tried to get a picture of the car or license plate number to no avail. It was obvious this group was up to no good and this was at 8:00 a.m. on a Wednesday morning. My guess is there was probably drugs or weapons in that car and these young hoodlums wonder why they get shot by the police.