CHRISTMAS EVE YEARS AGO
I had a good childhood growing up with love and happiness. We didn’t have much money but we had each other. Growing up in the 1950’s was much different than today. My father worked very hard at a fire extinguisher company and always had to work a half a day on Christmas Eve. His boss gave him a Christmas bonus that day and it was always $50 which was a lot back then. One year he received $100 for his Christmas bonus. He always came home and told my sister, Cynthia, and me to get ready to go to town with him to help him find a Christmas gift for our mother. We always enjoyed going Christmas shopping with him. After all these years, I still treasure all those memories. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 25 years old and he was 58. So many times you never know the good you have until it is gone.
On October 5, 2008, the Captain and I met in person for the first time when I was in San Diego for a business convention. We were drawn to each other immediately and knew this special relationship was meant to be. That was 13 years ago this month and we have been married for 11 years. Never give up since there is a chance someone special is waiting out there just for you.
I recently celebrated my 79th birthday and everyday you wake up on this side of the ground is a good day. I have been improving daily and it is now 3 months ago that I fell and broke my hip, had hip replacement surgery and spent 7 days in rehab for some PT. I am back to driving the car, although carefully. The list of tasks I can now accomplish are:
- Cook meals
- Do the laundry
- Change the sheets on the bed
- Drive the trash to the dumpster
- Take a shower and wash my hair
- Sweep and mop the floors
- Run the sweeper on the floors
- Put gas in the car
- Do light grocery shopping
We have to use the cards we are dealt and push forward from there. I certainly appreciate all the views I have received on my blog from people near and far. I continue to take good care of the Captain always since he is my life.
The old saying that “we can’t pick our relatives” also includes step children as well. I inherited 5 when I married the Captain and none were interested in getting to know me and hearing about my life. If they had read, My First Love, on my blog, they would have known many things about my life and the person I had become.
Through some misplaced anger, I was recently told that my marriage to the Captain was “tedious” because I was his third wife. Apparently, some of those step children have also read my blog and found it offensive and have accused me of “airing the family dirty laundry in public”. My answer to that is if reading about yourself makes you angry then clean up your act.
I was a widow for 5 years before I met the Captain and he changed my life for the better. We see that some family members have no experience with marriage or long -term relationships. Having someone who completes your life and who is your best friend as well is something to cherish.
So kids, if you don’t like my blog, then don’t read it because I will continue to write about my life experiences good, bad or ugly.